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How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life | 
 enlarge | Authors: Howard Bronson, Mike Riley
Publisher: Broadway
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  27 reviews
Sales Rank: 12144
Media: Paperback
Edition: 1
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 224
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Dimensions (in): 8 x 5.5 x 0.5
ISBN: 0767909089
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.7
EAN: 9780767909082
ASIN: 0767909089
Publication Date: January 22, 2002
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Product Description
“It’s over. Now what?”
Suffering from a broken heart? Afraid you’ll never get over this feeling of emptiness and loss? You can, and with the help of this easy-to-follow program of action, you will.
Follow Howard Bronson and Mike Riley as they lead you through their thirty-day plan for recovering from your broken heart. They will guide you through a brief period of mourning for your loss, and then the process of rebuilding yourself and your life. You are encouraged to enjoy good memories of the relationship that’s just ended, while remembering the reasons for the breakup. You will learn to take responsibility for your own emotions, face your fears, and ultimately to seek new people and new experiences. Find out:
How and why to cry ’til dry
Good ways to beat loneliness
Why it pays to forgive your ex
How to "let go" of old memories and resentments
How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days prescribes a wide array of tested and proven insights and exercises. After thirty days of active self-restoration, your heart will be healed and whole again–and you’ll be ready for anything. Of course, your feelings of grief, hurt, or shame may come and go. But in less than a month, you can be ready to deal with life's new challenges with a positive sense of emotional balance you may never have had before.
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"It's over. Now what?" Suffering from a broken heart? Afraid you'll never get over this feeling of emptiness and loss? You can, and with the help of this easy-to-follow program of action, you will. Follow Howard Bronson and Mike Riley as they lead you through their thirty-day plan for recovering from your broken heart. They will guide you through a brief period of mourning for your loss, and then the process of rebuilding yourself and your life. You are encouraged to enjoy good memories of the relationship that's just ended, while remembering the reasons for the breakup. You will learn to take responsibility for your own emotions, face your fears, and ultimately to seek new people and new experiences. Find out: - How and why to cry 'til dry
- Good ways to beat loneliness
- Why it pays to forgive your ex
- How to "let go" of old memories and resentments
How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days prescribes a wide array of tested and proven insights and exercises. After thirty days of active self-restoration, your heart will be healed and whole again-and you'll be ready for anything. Of course, your feelings of grief, hurt, or shame may come and go. But in less than a month, you can be ready to deal with life's new challenges with a positive sense of emotional balance you may never have had before.
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 Selling a solution to fix your broken heart (new label, same tired solutions), what could be next? August 7, 2008
I had my doubts about the title of the book, it reminded me of other advertising cliches: how to loose 20 pounds in two weeks, how to take 10 years of your age, get a full head of hair in a month, get smarter in three simple steps.........etc. Regretfully, I was still curious about the book and wanted to give it a chance, after all every heart deserves a chance to be healed.
To be fair, 30 days is usually sufficient time to break habits, and as proposed by the authors; it's the time needed to finish most cycles in life, which led me to believe that the authors are targeting female readers (a feeling I had when I first read the title, yeah once you're done with your next period, you will be reborn again, guaranteed). Also, it's a well known psychological approach to perform an act first in order to get to the wanted associated feelings like gaining more self esteem or getting to a better relaxation level, but I wasn't sure if that would apply to healing a broken heart.
Surprisingly, the two authors identified many important points like: avoiding pain will only postpone recovery, family and friends' hurtful attitudes to the broken hearted, the painful results of a broken heart, like rapid weight loss, loss of sleep, loss of trust, low self esteem and depression.
What the reader might expect after identifying a problem is to be offered a way of dealing with it, but I was disappointed in the authors' approach of presenting the affects and solutions to a broken heart:
1-Loss of sleep is dangerous and might lead to deep depression. The solution: try to relax, here are some sleep techniques that every body knows, and some herbs and other products that will help you relax (more advertisement). Do you find in these solutions any practical solution for people, who have been loosing sleep for long months, or just the same tired solutions?
2-Loss of weight might by rapid and acute. The solution: empty words are offered here and there throughout the book. No sound solution is given to stop the weight loss and regain a healthy appetite?
3-Low self esteem exacerbated by the recent hurt. The solution: avoid low self esteem and there is a plethora of techniques to make readers feel better about them selves, including weight loss methods (advertisement directed to the broken hearted female maybe?). How does adopting an attitude of pleasing the other gender boost self esteem of a person who's already losing weight rapidly? How can confiding in total strangers make us feel better? How is touching people randomly is a healing gift? No kidding, the authors are actually suggesting that.
4-Trust issues caused by betrayal: The solution: avoid trust issues or you will return to the same bad situation. Just like other identified problems in the book, solutions are merely empty words or more advertisement, not proven self help steps. How exactly does a wounded person gain trust in others? Am I to assume that every other person in the world has read this book and that they will start acting more humane? Please open the door, I think Pollyanna has arrived.
5-Confronting the pain instead of avoiding it is a proven approach to repairing emotional injuries. The authors' view, which was the worst solution I ever heard; is to force one self to cry for one day then move on, another day for a poor me celebration then move on, a day here and there among the 30 days trip of "chop, chop and get in the market again". How on earth does limiting uncontrollable reactions like crying count as pain confrontation?
Once done with this master piece, I actually stopped questioning the authors' intention especially after finding that their degrees were in ADVERTISMENT.
Contrary to what the authors propose, a broken heart is not caused by losing a lover or ending a relationship, but by the shock to an established personal moral system and finding out that the truth is totally different from the personal image of our relationships and loved ones that we have constructed.
A broken heart can't be fixed unless a moral personal system is rebuilt or healed. Each injury is unique and personal and each heart has a unique healing method and timeline. That's why I propose different books for the broken hearted of all genders:
*Forgiving the unforgivable, by Beverly Flanigan: a book that is based on detailed research, by a practicing psychologist who specialized in forgiveness and heart healing for twenty years. This book doesn't lead necessarily to forgiveness but leads through self exploration and therapy to a closure.
*It's called a breakup because it's broken, by Greg and Amiira Behrendt: which is a humorous collection of stories and healing methods, written by two regular people who don't claim to be experts. The book is based on personal experience with long years of pain; it does identify the difficulty of healing and the possibility of recovery through strong will and objective thinking.
 Simplistic Title, Substantive Book June 8, 2008
5 out of 5 found this review helpful
I thought this would be an easy read. Boy, was I wrong. Well, it *was* easy to read because it is very clearly written, and very direct and focused. It took me longer than expected to read because the SUBSTANCE of the book is so compelling. The chapters and exercises really hit home and provoke a lot of contemplation and action. I have already ordered a copy for a friend and highly recommend this book to anyone who has either recently lost a love relationship, or who hasn't really recovered from the hurts of one or more past relationships, recent or not so recent. This book basically says, YOU are in charge. YOU do the work. YOU need to recognize where you are and what you CAN do about it. This book does not permit you to wallow unnecessarily in the stages of grief but instead encourages you to recognize what IS and what ISN'T and to CHOOSE to deal with your situation constructively and actively. Spot-on!
Extremely helpful; practical, compassionate advice April 21, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
I relied on someone else's review when I decided to purchase this book, and I'm very glad I did. The authors don't sugarcoat the whole breakup experience, but they do offer realistic ideas on how to approach each day and mark progress. They don't demonize the other party, which is helpful, and similarly, they don't idealize what led to the split. I found myself looking forward to reading each day's blurb and contemplating the associated exercises. While I am still very sad about my breakup, I know there are better days ahead, and that having spent the time following the heartache constructively analyzing myself and the circumstances will prove beneficial down the road. If you are in a similar situation of feeling overwhelmed by a recent breakup, I highly recommend this book. And good luck to you.
Good book for a bad time March 6, 2008
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
My sister got me this book after my girlfriend of 4 years and I broke up. Thanks, sis! I found it to be a helpful way to occupy those newfound and oftentimes unwelcome free hours that accompany the loss of a loving relationship. The book discusses various emotions associated with the loss of a relationship and offers insight on how to deal with them. For each topic discussed, there are practical suggestions on generating the healthy perspective necessary to move on and become a happy person after a break-up. It's been a few months since I got the book, and I can definitely look back and know it helped me think about a lot of difficult things. After a few months, I feel a lot better and have a much better outlook on what a healthy relationship is and how that wasn't what I had.
Great Book December 20, 2007
9 out of 9 found this review helpful
This book has truly become an important part in helping me in my life.
I read this book and marked it up a whole bunch and have been going back a lot, looking at specific chapters as they pertain to me. It really has been great to read and has given me a lot of new perspectives on what I have been going through.
I am recently out a relationship in which I fell head over heels in love with a girl. We started dating and to say I was on top of the world would be an understatement. We dated for a year (talked marriage and kids) and at about that point I started getting feelings that it just was not right for me. I broke up with my girlfriend and for a long time after we went back and forth with dating each other, each time me breaking up with her.
I thought I was going to be able to move forward and move on with my life and at one point we stopped talking. About a month later she informed me she was seeing someone else and my world pretty much crashed. I was in such a bad place as I went through all those feelings of "I gave up the best thing ever," to "what is wrong with me," to "I will never love again," to "how could she be with someone else," to "why could I not love her before, this pain is unbearable," etc.
To say the last few months have been hard would be an understatement. But this book has been a big part of my life and helped me get through those sleepless nights, those unending days, and I can see now that I am now on a road to recovery. It is a process and this book has helped me see how to make it through that process.
One's first true love has been so hard to get over, especially knowing I was the one who ended it every time. I could not understand why I was saying goodbye every time to the one person I loved. All I could do was try to figure out what was wrong with me, there had to be some defect within me. Then to add to the confusion even more, after all the times I said goodbye, when I found out she was with someone else, was when I really hit rock bottom. That was when I really started to question my decisions. That is when I picked up this book and started reading.
This book takes a look at things from both sides, whether you are the one breaking up or you are the one who was broken up with. I feel like in my situation I was on both sides! I have learned so much about myself and I really have started to take a turn for the better. I have setbacks, but I have to understand that I am going to have those days and the good thing is is that those days are a lot fewer and farther between than thirty days ago.
I lost my best friend, the one person that I truly opened up to and really shared my core with. It has been hard for me knowing she is out there and close to me, yet so far away in so many respects. It has been hard having the one person that I really want to talk to about all this, not there for me. It is not everyday that we lose our best friend. It is something that I have struggled with, but I have realized it is something I have to deal with. This book shows you how to work through that.
I know I have a ways to go, but I am progessing. This book has been an amazing help to me as I have truly had the hardest time of my life. I even emailed the authors and they got back to me right away, what a great feeling!
I would recommend this book highly to those who are working on mending their heart, no matter what the situation.
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