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He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not: A Memoir of Finding Faith, Hope, and Happily Ever After | 
 enlarge | Author: Trish Ryan
Publisher: FaithWords
Category: Book
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Media: Hardcover
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Pages: 320
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Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.6 x 1.3
ISBN: 1599957132
Dewey Decimal Number: 248.8432
EAN: 9781599957135
ASIN: 1599957132
Publication Date: April 30, 2008
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Trish Ryan was the quintessential successful thirtysomething woman -- she had a career as an attorney, a nice car, and a succession of men clamoring for her affection. But despite all her accomplishments, the things by which she defined her life continually left her disappointed, especially when it came to dating. Like the heroines of chick-lit novels and Sex and the City, she couldn't escape her bad luck with men: men who cheated, who left her, who made her a lesser version of herself. After years of trying everything out there to make love work -- new age philosophy, feminist empowerment, myriad of self-help programs -- she finally, hesitantly, decided to give God a try. This is Ryan's story of how her search for the right guy turned into the search for the right God, and (spoiler alert!) how she ended up with the happily-ever-after ending.
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 Words To Mouth Review June 23, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
When I first read the book jacket on He Loves Me, He Loves Me NOT (HLMHLMN), I thought I was in for some light-hearted chick lit or a God on a Harley type ride. Trish Ryan's desperate hubby hunt turned faith quest ended up far more meaningful than finding Prince Charming.
Spirituality/Religion can be a heavy topic and can put many a reader on the defense, but Trish reveals her journey with such candor and humor, I, for one, walked away appreciating her process.
In her twenties, Trish threw around the common disclaimer that she was "spiritual, but not religious." She embraced everything from A Course in Miracles, astrology, tarot cards, feng shui, crystals, chakras, Native American spirituality--you name it, she tried it. If she hadn't already made her choice, you better bet, Trish would be first in line to buy Oprah's Book Club pick, Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth Awakening To Your Life's Purpose. With painful self-dissection and heartache, all that changed...
Even if you're not exploring enlightenment, you can glean clarity from Trish's memoir. I appreciate her willingness to allow us a glimpse into her spiritual and psychological trenches--she admits her insecurities and speaks openly about the dreaded "D-word," depression. Don't be detered--HLMHLMN is by no means a downer. Think Sex in The City meets Women of Faith ~ Trish's relentless self-effacing humor inspires quick page turning.
I doubt we'll find many people, especially women, who won't find themselves relating to Trish, at least on some level. She reminds me of our tendency to project our ideals onto our latest man crush--the biggest trap we can set for ourselves. Instead of seeing others--specifically, prospective mates--for what they truly are, we throw our notions of perfection at them in hopes they'll stick, so we'll finally find our elusive soul mate glazed in shiny flawlessness. Then, "Life Happens," and inevitably things heat up and that glaze begins to melt, slowly dripping off to reveal the faulty individual underneath...and we're left with our disappointment wondering "What happened? Why did THEY change? I appreciate Trish's comitment to digging deep in HLMHLMN to determine that the hole she thought she could fill with a man truly could not be satiated by someone of this world.
I must admit, I was left wanting her to explore just a bit more:
**WHY she had such a deep sense of insecurity in the first place ~ From her account, she comes from a strong Catholic in-tact loving family--anything BUT dysfunctional compared to today's standards--so where does this deep internal abyss originate? Without God, does that unfillable hole reside in us all?
**Like Trish, in my twenties, I fell into the trap of thinking my boyfriend could complete me . On page 26 of HLMHLMN she admits: "Dating Josh marked an evolution for me: it was my first experience with lying about who I was and what I wanted, of guessing what a guy wanted and then pretending to be eactly that." That was me. I didn't know myself or what I wanted and I thought finding a guy would fill that void--in was unconscious, unintentional. After reading HLMHLMN, I found myself wanting Trish to explore her own individual passions and purpose apart from her quest for landing a man. Hmmm, maybe visiting her website will provide those answers. You can also visit Trish's Forty Days of Faith website.
Just a sidenote: As a young twenty-something "yankee," living very much like Trish--very defensive to condescending "Christianese." I had a number of Born Agains hit me with well-intended phrases like "Don't you want to be washed in the blood of the lamb?" and "My heart is burdened for your salvation" ~ Huh? That, quite frankly, felt far from loving--only sanctimonious--and turned me OFF from Christianity. It's no wonder Christianity gets a bad rap these days. Conversely, I think Trish does a superb job of articulating the Christian tenets in a nonthreatening conversational tone--very much like a discussion you may have with a nonjudgmental loving girlfriend. Admittedly, I've lived in the southern Bible Belt for nearly fifteen years now and embrace the Christian perspective, so maybe I'm immune at this point, but I'd be interested to hear how you recieve Trish's message.
What are your impressions? Let's start a conversation..Feel free to visit my website at www.WordsToMouth.com and leave a comment or call and leave a voice mail.
Bottom line: HLMHLMN obviously evokes much introspection. I recommend it and would love to hear your thoughts on the book and the points I've raised in this post.
 A Great Read! June 9, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
This memoir is about Trish's journey through many different spiritual practices and relationships, while searching for happiness, and ultimately a husband. Her candid sense of humor comes through in her casual, yet gripping style of writing. I appreciated her ability to communicate that not all (in fact probably most) Christians do not fall into the stereotypes that are thrown at them, whether it be that they are Republicans, Bible-thumpers, etc. Her style/experience with faith is one that draws people in wanting to experience it for themselves. I'm not a fast reader, but finished this book in two days because I couldn't put it down.
review May 29, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
great book! I could relate to some of my younger years and all the crying and laughing that she allowed for me to feel of my crazy adventures before I found the love of my life. Yes, and finding Jesus as the one true savior and Lord saved me too, from my own follies.
LOVED this book May 23, 2008
5 out of 5 found this review helpful
This is a great book. Smart, funny, honest, and well written. You want to give it to every friend you know who is looking for freedom, joy, peace and love by rearranging their furniture, and also to everyone who is having trouble believing in miracles. I can't recommend it enough.
A good read May 22, 2008
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
When Trish Ryan was in the midst of her idyllic childhood, she knew two things: God loved her, and one day he would send her a Handsome Prince. But, her thoughts on God and men were pretty much self-generated and quickly intermingled to a single passion. Her quest for spiritual fulfillment centered around finding a man and her happily ever after. Born Catholic, she went through years trying astrology, feng shui and any other spiritual road that offered fulfillment if only she could bend the universe to her thinking. Increasingly despondent, she heard God speak. Could she "take Jesus seriously?"
This is an extraordinarily powerful book in the right hands. For all of the women's lib many of us were raised under, still most women at least secretly harbor the hope that a handsome prince will seek us out and love us for who we are, cinders and all. We ache to be loved. And we clamor for peace. Trish writes this in a thoroughly enchanting way.
She is brutally honest about her spiritual quest and her quest for a husbanda"and the distinct parallels between the two. Not only that, but the heartbreak she suffers at each crossroads. And when she begins to describe "Christians," she doesn't throw the lingo around assuming readers understand. She beaks it down into what it really means in everyday language. And she is believable because she lived it.
I think this book is great for two audiences: The Christians and the "Decidedly Not" Christians. Christians should read this to see what the world's understanding of spirituality really is and how ridiculous the "lingo" sounds when you don't understand it. And for those spiritual seekers out there, always looking to achieve spirituality but not quite finding it, oh, I hope they will also pick it up.
This book is just a phenomenal resource on so many levels. Don't assume it isn't for you, because there is a fair chance that it is.
Armchair Interview says: A book worth checking out.
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