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 enlarge | Author: Eleanor Payson
Publisher: Julian Day Publications
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  74 reviews
Sales Rank: 1398
Media: Paperback
Pages: 187
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.7
Dimensions (in): 8.9 x 6 x 0.6
ISBN: 0972072837
Dewey Decimal Number: 616.85854
EAN: 9780972072830
ASIN: 0972072837
Publication Date: October 1, 2002
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A very good book! September 6, 2008
This is a great book about a subject that it seems is not addressed much. I found it hard to read becuase of my own pain but I am glad that I found it and am trying to work my way through it. At first I did not get the Wizard of Oz connection because that is not the sort of movie I paid any attention to but now I do get it. You can check my reviews for another title on this subject that was a total waste of money for me.
Excellent Book! August 28, 2008
I read a couple of books years ago that were very helpful about Narcissism, but I had let myself forget what I had learned. Finding myself dealing with a very self-centered co-worker, I decided to see what books had been written about dealing with a Narcissist in the workplace. This book was very interesting, so much so, I passed it on to my son who had recently told me about some problems he was having with someone. My local bookstore, however, told me the book was "out of print". Fortunately, I was able to get it quickly from Amazon. I wish more was available to help people cope with Narcissistic people in their lives--it is epidemic! Thanks to the author and to Amazon!
Hidden Gem August 27, 2008
This may be one of the most important books that you will ever read about relationships. Contrary to common belief, narcissism is about self-absorption, not self love. Most of us are self-absorbed. In fact, self-absorption is ingrained in American culture.
Recognizing narcissism is a great step toward being able to deal with others. You may even find that you are a narcissist. There two main types of narcissism. And they feed off of each other in an endless, unhealthy dynamic. Both are very needy, rooted in poor self-esteem. In fact, narcissism is almost the opposite of self-love: self-hate.
Reading this book is like getting special glasses for social interactions. Totally fascinating. And useful.
Uncanny August 23, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
If you have a relationship with a narcissist, you will see it described with uncanny insight in this book. The bad news: you realize how incredibly destructive a narcissist is on the psyches of the people around him. The good news: you can begin to disarm his destructive power - and even begin to have some compassion, from a safe distance - once you understand the ugly, inescapable little pod that a narcissist is trapped in. Likely it comes by way of some wounds he sustained from a narcissist parent, and you can thank God you can keep yourself out of it.
The book describes my relationship with my ex, and it's almost like a template: the dynamics between a co-dependent and a person with NPD are so familiar. Also uncanny - and more frightening - is the description of the narcissist's relationship to his or her "chosen" child and the terrible burden that imposes upon the child. I've seen this in two generations of narcissists and now I worry the "narcissistic wounding" will be passed on to my child. But I did find some comfort: the "unchosen" child, while neglected, ends up doing better in the long run. Neglect is a good thing when your parent has narcissistic personality disorder.
Now it all makes sense August 13, 2008
4 out of 4 found this review helpful
After I finally ended a 20 year relationship with a man that I referred to as" the most self centered human on earth", I still struggled with the lesson I was to learn from it all and still had a fog about what I had experienced. A friend turned me on to this book and BINGO! all the pieces fell into place for me. I was unaware that being a narcissist was an actual personality disorder and that these people were overt or covert about it. I want to shout from the roof tops...Free at last, I'm free at last. No kidding, I am finally at peace with it all. What an education this book has given me. Most importantly, that you cannot change them. You either leave, yes thank you or stay and fight for an identity. She explained everything I had been feeling for so many years. Exactly how a narcissist treats you like an extension of themselves, a tool, arm, etc. How you become convinced that eventually you will get your day in the sun and all the kudos you have coming. That day NEVER comes and eventually you realize your soul is going to be sucked right out of yourself. Leaving is the answer. I can't imagine staying for "the kids", as they would grow up with a narcissistic parent and that would be unfair to them and cause more damage than a divorce would. Fabulous, Fabulous Book, must read.
She offers examples of co-workers, parents, spouses as well as a professional relationship or a work for hire. How to spot them and how to deal with them. This book was the sparkler on the cake for me in putting that part of my life in a box and on a shelf marked finished & complete.
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