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 enlarge | Authors: Robert E. Alberti, Michael L. Emmons
Publisher: Impact Publishers
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Avg. Customer Rating:  12 reviews
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Media: Paperback
Edition: 9th
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Pages: 299
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Dimensions (in): 8.9 x 6 x 0.6
ISBN: 1886230854
Dewey Decimal Number: 158.2
EAN: 9781886230859
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Publication Date: May 21, 2008
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 Your Perfect Right October 16, 2006
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
This is such a great book. It was actually one of my text books in college,used in one of my HUS electives.
I gave it to a friend who I thought needed it and then bought two more copies 1 for my personal enjoyment and then a copy for a guy at church that made soup look nervous.
Great book!
Powerfully helpful book June 28, 2006
9 out of 9 found this review helpful
of all the books on my bookshelf, this is probably the one that i have recommended the most. the authors do an excellent job of motivating people to assertiveness, describing the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness (something i repeatedly do with patients because these concepts were not well defined for them in the past), and providing a practical guide for people to improve their assertiveness. the end of the book has a helpful section on deciding when to be assertive and reviews various questions to consider at the time you are trying to decide if the current situation is a battle worth picking.
i have found that many patients feel very challenged by the notion of abrasive or offensive people scaring them into submission. this book has a chapter on dealing with difficult people that helps with this fear. the section, true to form, gives a very practical strategy for tackling even the toughest, most narcissistic individuals.
for individuals wanting to conduct assertiveness training in a group format, the book can easily be tailored to this goal. the practical, step-by-step approach makes creating weekly lessons and discussion groups quite simple.
my only complaint about the book has to do with the discussion of anger. i don't agree with some of the authors' concepts in this area. for example, they don't see anger as something that builds and could be expressed negatively and disproportionately when the straw breaks the camel's back. i believe in concepts such as anger displacement and think that one person can only take so much. also, the authors state that anger is a feeling like sadness, happiness, fear, etc. i believe, though, that anger is a cover for other emotions such as sadness, anxiety, fear, guilt, shame, etc. when i've worked with patients on anger, they are nearly always able to see this and explore what their anger is truly about. that is, while anger is a valid emotion, it also tends to be superficial. while it often gets us the reactions we want (e.g. getting others to back off, getting people to do things our way), it is motivated by other emotions in my opinion.
another great reference is smith's When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. this book focuses more on overcoming guilt and feelings of low self-worth as the primary obstacles to being assertive and self-respecting.
I needed this and it helped September 1, 2005
4 out of 6 found this review helpful
This book helped me help myself. I have a tendency to want to please everyone at my own expense. I learned that there is a difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness.
Great book! February 13, 2004
18 out of 20 found this review helpful
First and foremost, this book defines assertiveness. It doesn't get into how to be assertive in much detail. There are many other books out there for that: "People Skills", by Robert Bolton, for example. With that said, this book does a wonderful job defining assertive behavior and when to use it. In this complex world, it's difficult to define appropriate assertiveness, but this book does shed some interesting light on the subject. I have learned a lot from it, and I would definitely recommend it. I believe it deserves 5 stars.
 Stick to assertiveness training... October 29, 2003
32 out of 45 found this review helpful
While I did find this book somewhat informative and useful in developing assertiveness (I wouldn't be writing this review otherwise), I was turned off by the constant insertions of political and moral viewpoints. This book would be just as effective without the subtle rhetoric.Additionally, this book could be heavier on the content. It uses too many references, making it seem, at times, like little more than a reader's digest of everyone else's books on the subject. In conclusion, assertiveness is independent of political or moral viewpoints, yet this book implies that by taking an alternate viewpoint to those presented in this book would be wrong. Isn't that a subtle form of the manipulation that is discouraged in this book? This book would be better with less politics and more original content.
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